Smart Phone Addiction in Teenagers

Is your teenager addicted to their SmartPhone?

If the answer to this question is YES, then please understand that you are not on your own.

Does your teenager get panicky when they can’t find their phone or they are denied access to it?

Is it the Smart Phone itself or the Apps that they are addicted to such as TikTok, Facebook, Instagram, SnapChat and Twitter?

TikTok is very addictive as it is easy to access. It only needs the thumb to scroll up very quickly to find videos that are short and which gives you “mini-stories”, it helps youngsters to stay in the trend and the content is always fresh and the algorithm means that they only see videos that TikTok think will interest them. This is so clever but can be destructive too.

These are questions that we must ask ourselves now. Lockdown has prompted all of us, including our teenagers, to check and re-check our phones for Social Media and news and it has been reported that, even before lockdown, teenagers would be checking their phones every 10-12 mins.

During lockdown, media coverage and social media discussions have played an enormous part in searching for news in our concern about coronavirus and some people have found this news difficult to cope with, especially teenagers.  When walking down the road, I have seen young people on their phones and not looking where they are going. I have to move out of the way. They are usually on Social Media and interacting with their friends. Did you know that phone addiction in youngsters is actually worse than drug use and each time they use their phone, they are receiving a “hit” of dopamine, a neurotransmitter that acts as a “reward” and makes you feel good.

Their mental wellbeing has been and is being affected by all this bad news, and yet, they still need to know about it and still need to talk to their “besties” about it through Social Media.

It’s vital to look after their wellbeing, but for these teenagers and youngsters who are dependant on their phones, it can be tricky. Their lives are going at speed and they cannot switch off. They are dependant on their “besties” and being confined and away from them has caused a much greater need for sociability and acceptance.

With Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy, I can help them to see that there is a need to switch off, to find other outlets for their energy and to discover why they are so addicted to their Smart Phones.  Parents, give me a call to discuss.

Covid-19 – How has it affected you?

This is my first blog for 2020.  Many apologies and I can only say that since the beginning of 2020, I have been very busy with clients and then in March – BOOM.  Covid-19 has left me depleted with having to close my Therapy Room, only work with clients via Zoom and, more importantly, lose some of my clients as they were unable to attend Therapy sessions any more.

How has Covid-19 affected you?  So many of my friends have had to be furloughed or lost their jobs.  So many of my friends have had to do home-schooling whilst working from home.  So many of my friends have seen loved ones taken away from them through Covid-19 and so many of my friends have experienced stress and anxiety since lockdown on 23rd March, 2020.

Our Primitive Brains have been working in overdrive since Covid-19 started and we have been in lockdown.  This brain is wanting to keep us safe and so it comes alive to help us to deal with any situations that might harm us.  The only issue is that our Primitive Brains do not know when to stop and we are unable to get them to stop as our Hypocampus, full of emotions and memories, are bringing up all sorts of unwanted emotions and thought patterns.  It’s a case of using our Intellectual Mind, our left pre-frontal cortex to take control in time of crisis, emotional overload and negative thought patterns.

As we are now coming out of lockdown, how has it been for you and how have you coped with all the situations that you have had to face?  I always ask my clients to look at 3 gratitudes per day, even when the Primitive Brain is in control, wanting to save us from ourselves.  Have you taken time to just sit and listen to your emotions and to understand what is going on that is taking you to a level of unconsicous thought patterns which bring you down?

Please just remember that our Primitive Brain has been looking after us for millions of years.  It is there to do its job, however, our Intellectual Mind is what we need to help us through this time.  When we use our Intellectual Mind, we can think positively, intellectually and creatively about our negative emotions and put these emotions in their place to not let them dominate our lives.

Let’s get back to “normality” as quickly as we can and always keep positive even when we are feeling negative.

 

 

 

My Story

My story and how and the power of solution-focussed hypnotherapy influenced me.

I’ve always been interested in therapy and, throughout my career, have always worked with people so understanding them has been one of my life’s passions.

I experienced Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy for myself when I had a fear of flying. We didn’t talk about my fear but after 6 sessions, I took my flight to Bangkok with no problem!

Many people don’t want to, can’t or aren’t able to delve into their past and discover what happened to bring them to where they are today and solution-focussed hypnotherapy doesn’t require that because it uses the present and the future only.

The present:
What would you like to change?

The future:
What would you like to change it to?

The sessions begin with a lesson about the mind – how the subconscious and conscious minds work and how we can disrupt and repair patterns or thought processes that are causing you problems.

We look at what it is you’d like to change and how your life will be once that change has been made.

Crucially, I track your progress using a simple questionnaire so that together, we can see progress being made or address any dips to re-route us for our next session.

I usually recommend between six-eight sessions for my clients so that we can start to make progress together and then maintain it too.

Ask me about my free one-hour consultation today.

How I overcame my PAMs

I have suffered from panic attacks over the years and I know full well how they make you feel. I called them my PAM’s (Panic Attack Monsters). I used to want to tow a large box around me when out and about. This box I could get in to when I felt an attack coming on. I could then be on my own and release the fear.

Panic is a natural response to feeling stressed in dangerous situations. Everyone experiences feelings of anxiety and panic at certain times. However, panic attacks come on spontaneously even when you are not feeling stressed or anxious. They produce symptoms that are very frightening and hard to comprehend. Once a panic attack happens, the fear comes that another one will happen. This then develops in to a ”fear” of a “fear”

Panic disorder is an anxiety disorder where you regularly have sudden attacks of panic or fear. It can happen at any time, often for no reason. Your body can experience a rush of intense mental and physical symptoms, from mild to severe.

A panic attack can be very distressing and frightening although they are not dangerous. The symptoms can include a racing heart, sweating, nausea, feeling faint, shortness of breath, dry mouth, ringing in your ears, trembling and a feeling of dread or a fear of dying to name a few.

The amount of panic attacks you will have depend on how severe your condition is. Some people have them once or twice a week while others can have them once a month.

They usually last between 5 and 10 minutes although some have been reported to last up to an hour and will leave you feel drained afterwards.

Although it can sometimes be difficult to talk to people about your feelings, personal life and emotions, try not to feel anxious or embarrassed. With my experience with Panic Attacks and, as a Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapist, I can help you.

There are no real treatments for Panic Attacks but understand what they are and why you are experience them will help you to cope with them more effectively.

Sessions aim to reduce the number of panic attacks you have, and to understand how your brain works and breathing techniques to help you keep calm during an attack. You may need between 3-6 sessions depending on your symptoms and access your progress.

I will show you exactly what happens in your brain when a Panic Attack begins. Once you understand this, you will know that is it not life threatening, even though you believe you are having a possible heart attack. You will be able to start to train your brain in how to react and this will stop the attacks. It will be hard work but, in partnership with me, you will beat it.

Obsessional Compulsive Disorder

Obsessive Compulsive Disorder

OCD is a common issue in mental health and it affects men, women and children.  It can develop around the age of puberty but typically it starts in early adulthood.  People with OCD are often reluctant to talk about it or look for help as they feel embarrassed or ashamed to admit it.  This should not be the case as it is a health condition and you are not “going mad”  Please do not think this if you suffer from OCD.

It is not really clear why OCD develops but it can be down to a number of life events, such as  bereavement or childbearing and certain personalities who have high levels of personal standards, being neat and methodical are more prone to developing OCD.   It can also be down to an unusually high level of activity in the brain or a low level of the chemical Serotonin (the happy hormone) in the pre-frontal cortex which is the intellectual brain.

People who are anxious and have a strong responsibility for themselves often display OCD symptoms in terms of anxiety and worrying about things.  This can usually show itself in experiencing frequent obsessive thoughts and having compulsive behaviours.

Have you ever kept checking your front door as you are going out?  Someone with an obsessive fear of their house being bugled will feel that they need to keep checking the window locks and doors before they can leave the house.  Doing this will relieve the unpleasant feelings brought on by the obsessive thought.  This is very common.  If this type of obsessive behaviour does not worry you or affect your lifestyle then you are able to cope.  Sometimes, however, these compulsive behaviours can be lifechanging and you will need to seek help.

With OCD in young adults, they may feel responsible for themselves and often their children.  They can worry when their children are ill and when they start school or when they go on their first school trip.  This is down to their love for their young ones and their feeling of responsibility for them.  Even if they are in the care of schoolteachers or doctors when they are ill, this can cause extreme anxiety and worry for the parent until they have got their children home.

With Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy, a client will probably only need about 3-4 sessions to help them to understand why they are having these obsessive-compulsive thoughts.  Anxiety is the key and as a Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapist, I will talk to my client very openly about how they are feeling in the present and will never delve into their past.  The solution is to look forward to how they want to live their lives without OCD and how they are going to achieve this in partnership with  me by their side.

If you feel that you have an issue with OCD and this issue is affecting how you live you life, come and see me for a complimentary Initial Consultation where we can talk about how you are feeling and what you want to achieve and I will explain to you exactly what is happening in your brain when you are feeling anxious and obsessive.  Let’s talk soon.

 

Smart Tunes – How Music Benefits your Brain. Listen Up Now

Do any of you remember the “Macarena” pop song by Los del Rio in 1993.  If you do, you might remember sipping your cocktail and tapping your feet.  Across the room, a group of people jump off their chairs, put their hands on their hips and start the actions.  If you haven’t already started to tap your feet and nod your head, you will probably start to do it.  You decide that you want to be young and foolish once again.

You see this – this is what music does to us.  Do any of you remember “In the Mood” by Glen Miller.   This song was recorded in 1939 and was top of Charts in 1940.  When this song was played, it made people forget about the war and smile when the music was played.

My favourite artist of all time is Michael Jackson and when “Thriller” started to play, even though I might be feeing sad, I would always start to smile and tap my feet whilst dancing vigorously.

When you start to dance or tap your feet to music that you love, a range of processes starts to take place in your brain. The melody has passed through your brain stem to your Auditory Cortex and the centres that control physical activity.  Here we are, dancing along to our favourite music.  This stimulates hormones in our brain that benefits most where music and movement come together.  When we dance, we stimulate our blood stream whilst lowering our blood pressure and stress levels.  We enjoy it too!

Through music, we can experience very intense emotions, but in a safe way.  We can listen to it to enhance our moods and to achieve a different state of mind.  If we are sad, music can help us to process our emotions and generate such emotions as tenderness, nostalgia and wonder.

Does your favourite music help you with your emotions?  If you were on a desert island, what one piece of music would you choose to have with you?  Please comment below.

 

 

Welcome to my website

Hello and welcome to my website.  I hope that you enjoy and learn from the information that I post and that my blogs will be of use to you when learning about Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy and all that it can offer you.

Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy is a type of ‘talking therapy’, that combines the use of psychotherapy with hypnosis. Hypnosis or ‘trance’ is a very natural, relaxing state, encouraged by using guided relaxation, where the mind can relax and then focus on thoughts and suggestions that might be useful.  As a modern psycho-therapeutic approach, Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy uses practical, structured, and well-researched strategies to help people make significant, positive changes in their lives in a relatively short period of time.

Crucially, in Solution-Focussed Hypnotherapy, therapists look at what the client wants to achieve as a solution rather than at the whatever problem prompted them to seek help.